Changes Brought On By Motherhood

The majority of the population changes upon having a baby. For some they change dramatically, others only subtly. I would put myself somewhere in the middle. (Although I am not sure everyone I know would agree, they would probably put me in that first category.) I wasn't a big drinker, nor did I like to go out all that often, from those aspects I haven't changed much. For others that would be the biggest lifestyle change. Their social life.

Now I think the biggest change for most people is you go from being your number one priority to your baby coming first. For me, it was very natural, I don't even think about it. Whatever is best for Ella is what I do. I wasn't really a selfish person (I don't think, anyway) but I did and got what I wanted. After Ella, I started making sacrifices, with my time, what I spend on myself and needs and eventually what we eat. All just so she could have more or have better. I used to do hair on the side just so I had extra spending money for myself, new shoes, clothes, books, whatever. After having Ella, it's usually spent on things for her; books, toys, clothes, pajamas.

I want to be with her all the time, I hardly ever leave her (not super healthy I know, but I do work part time so we aren't together 24/7). Is it fair to my friends? To Nick? Definitely not. I know I should do things apart from her, not just for work. To have fun or time with my husband, but I am so happy with her. I enjoy being with her so much, I have fun, I laugh, we play, dance and read. I also know this is the only child we are going to have and I don't want to miss a minute of it. I am just thoroughly enjoying motherhood. This will be my only chance, I will never get another one. (We only ever wanted one)

Maybe I have changed more dramatically than I thought I would, who knows maybe it was a big change. All I know is instead of just being a good person, I now want to be the best mother I can be.  Becoming a parent is a BIG DEAL. You are responsible for another life and how they turn out. So I guess that is pretty big. What was the biggest change in your life after your child was born?