Oh Jeez!

My husband and I don't agree on a lot of things but sometimes I think he says things just to make me stop and think, "Huh?" For example, the other day I needed to go to the store but I needed to shower first, dry my hair, put my make up on and get dressed, whatever. He says, "Why cant you just go like that?" My reply, "You mean with dirty, sweaty boy band hair and smelly work out clothes?". "Yeah" he says, "You look fine." I then tell him, after thinking huh, "You know I don't go out like that." (Which he does.) We have had this conversation, it feels like a million times. Every time he does not understand why I can't just go out like that, why I even care.

I have told him so many times that I just don't like going out in public looking like I don't care. It's not that I am really vain, it's just that I take pride in the way I look and dress. I don't think there is anything wrong with that. It's not like I'm going in an evening gown with over the top makeup and hair. It is literally just styling my hair and basic make up and no ill-flattering sweats, those are my personal rules for going out in public. Plus I like to look good for Nick and I do feel better about my self when I have put in the effort. It isn't just that it makes me more attractive (in my opinion), it's that I deserve to do those little things for myself that I enjoy. For crying out loud it was my full time profession to do hair and make up. I enjoy being a woman and all that goes along with it. Now I am not saying that I cant go out in public with out make up or my hair in a ponytail (when I had enough hair to do so), I have, I just don't like to look sloppy. I do care what I look like so why would I want to be perceived like I don't. (Besides what if you run into someone you know?) Nick cannot grasp this concept at all. When he gets irritated with this policy of mine, I just smile and say something along the lines of, "Then you shouldn't have married a hair dresser" or "You knew I was like this before we got married, don't expect it to change now".

I think if I did stop caring about my appearance, it would bother him. Like he wasn't worth getting dolled up for. I want to look good for him just as much as I want to look good for me. He says I look good bare faced and in sweats, while I disagree that is not my best look, I have to love him for it. On this we will agree, to disagree.